Well, here we all are, just a few days before Christmas. How
did that happen? Am I the only one that thinks this year absolutely flew by!?
At this time last year I was flying high from having visited Cincinnati,
meeting my 2nd and 3rd cousins and getting my hands on
(literally) family documents from the 1800s that I’d known existed but thought
were probably gone forever. I’d had the
pleasure, and honor, of processing them so they were stabilized and described,
and more importantly had had the chance to discuss them with my cousins. Having
spent Thanksgiving on my own for the first time (my elderly parents had moved
to Arizona), it was wonderful to feel the warmth of my extended family’s
appreciation of my genealogical efforts and to have a greater sense of my own
roots.
Over the course of the coming year, I learned so much about
how to be a better technician with regard to my genealogical research. Say what
you will but ensuring that someone else, who WILL see your research, can find the
resources you used is just good manners. Is it a pain in the butt learning how
to properly cite sources? You betcha. Do I do it right and consistently? Not
yet, but I’m getting there. The few clients I’ve had have expressed
appreciation for the documentation I’ve shared with them. And, I’m finding more
and more tools to ensure that all the hours of work I’ve put into my own research
will be a valuable asset to someone coming after me.
And, of course, that leads me to the inevitable: there’s no
one after me. Thanksgiving was very hard last year, and this year it seems the
Christmas holiday has me feeling…I don’t know…melancholy doesn’t quite capture
what I’m feeling. I avoided stores so I
wouldn’t have to see the decorations. No holiday radio or Pandora. I cringe
every time I drive into our subdivision and see all the holiday decorations up;
with the weather being so warm early on it seems everyone pulled out all the
stops with their decorations and lights. But my house is dark.
I had to go into the basement yesterday to get wrapping
paper for my grand nephew’s birthday present, and all the holiday decorations were
there in their boxes and bags. The thought of having to wrap the few gifts we
give challenges me. But they’ll get wrapped and given with a warm smile and the wish that they could be so much more, that I could give my cousins and their
kids more than the small tokens we can afford.
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| Photo courtesy of Laura Cosgrove Lorenzana |
As you grumble about the holiday hassle, the running from
here to there, the endless stream of obligations, think about this: there’s
someone out there that misses that experience and would give anything to have it
back. To know the chaos of Christmas trees with too many packages underneath
and the dread of how long it’s going to take to get everything sorted just so
the opening can start. There’s the noisy clambering of kids and adults, and
especially the inevitable argument over something trivial. There’s the baking
and cooking for so many hungry party goers and that last minute run to the
store with the ‘look of death’ shot to your husband because you told him there wasn’t enough wine. For
those of you with all that and more, count your blessings.
For those of us without, we’re not ‘without’. We choose. We
choose to participate or not. We know we’re not alone, that there are others
like us out there. And if we can see
past our own pain, however small or big, there are lots of ways that we can
share ourselves to gain back our sense of warmth and being loved. This year especially, there are so many
families in the northeast who still desperately need help. Look around your own
community and I’m sure you’ll find a place where your kindness will be
appreciated. Don’t waste it; someone will appreciate it.
May you all feel the spirit of this holiday season; of gifts
received, but more importantly, of gifts given.
Happy Holidays
